Have you ever noticed that nothing you do or try to do goes smoothly? There is always an issue and nothing turns out right. It seems to be my story lately. My life is a constant battle to getting things accomplished with little fuss or epic failure. “If you first don’t succeed, try, try again.” quote is always staring me in the face as one project after another fails to look or not turn out as I had planned. BUT GOD, these are the words I have been seeing lately instead. Whether I am late for an appointment, or my project is a failure or turns out differently than I want, God is in control and has a purpose for it. A plan to grow, challenge, and refine you. He can take you and your willingness to heights you never dreamed up, but the first step comes at the cross roads of failure.
Do I keep trying and make do with what I have and pray and ask God for guidance and help, or do I give up?
The question is, what do you believe? Do you believe that God can help and grow you from this and this is just a necessary stepping stone on your way to refining your character and abilities with Gods help, or is it all not worth it and truly a failure?
The choice you make when you come to this point in life, defines what your core belief really is. We are faced with a hundred core beliefs every day. What are core beliefs you ask? What a great question! Core beliefs are thoughts or ideas we take to heart and base our daily decisions and choices from. These beliefs are instilled in us since the day we are born. Through life experience, how others treat us, and our choices we develop a belief system that rules and guides are life on a daily basis. An example I can give you, is… I don’t look good in pink. With this one core belief, we will control everything we wear, every object of clothes we buy and every gift we ask for based on this one core belief. Why? Because someone at one time in our life told us that a pink shirt we were wearing made us look washed out. We took that belief to heart and decided from that day forward not to wear any pink. The problem was, it wasn’t the shirt that made us looked washed out, it was the blond color we just added last week to our hair that we didn’t really like anyway. To make it even worse, pink is your favorite color. By taking this statement to heart we have made a decision that will control not only how we dress, but how the color makes you feel. Let alone how depressed we feel because we are not expressing ourselves by wearing our favorite color.
Has this happened to you over your belief in God? Or why you aren’t going to church anymore?
The church is only full of hypocrites, this core belief will not only keep you from church, but you will find yourself completely alienating yourself from anyone what says they love and follow God. The truth is the church is full of sinners. Majority have publicly acknowledge that, a few may be hypocrites, but that is between them and God. The church is also full of people that love each other, would give the shirt off their back for you, and is only a phone call away if you ever need anything. If you changed the core belief you have about the church being full of hypocrites then you may just find yourself in the pew next Sunday, sitting next to a person that will become the greatest friend you will ever have. The opportunity to be a part of an extended family you never knew was possible to have.
So, moving forward I am going to look at every failure, and every obstacle as a learning experience from God. I am going to change my core belief about my failures. Maybe my failures is God’s way of growing my tolerance for disappointment, maybe growing my ability for perseverance. Who knows, but I will choose to guard my heart where my core beliefs are stored, because I don’t want a simple belief keep me from being the person God intended me to be. I am going to fail, but God. Through failure, God has a plan, and He alone has the power to help us learn, grow us, and give us strength to change those false beliefs into hopeful ones. Also, I love pink! It makes me feel alive… its my signature color! lol
Proverbs 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
Here are some other core beliefs that I personally have struggled with and have held me back in my life and in my relationship with God and others… I hope they help and maybe we can find the truth together. “For ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” John 8:32
No one cares about me…
I am out of control…
Life is not fair…
My family is in this mess because its my fault…
I am to young to make a difference…
I am too old to help…
Sickness means you don’t have enough faith in God…
If you are any hinderance to God, He will take you out…
The fruit of the spirit list allows us to judge others…
My house must look good…
My children should never act up in public…
They need to get ahold of that child or they are gonna be sorry one day…
If God loved me, he wouldn’t let me suffer…
I shouldn’t have to tell my husband what I need from him…
I need to quit while I am ahead…
I encourage you to take whatever belief you are struggling with and pray over it. Search the bible while praying for God to show you the answer. When you find the answer, you will be amazed how it will change your life for the better and how clear your heart and mind will become. Satan’s goal is to keep you caught up and distracted by false core beliefs. God wants you free from that and show you a better way. So, what path will you choose? To move forward regardless of struggle and failure or quit?
by keri payne 